The first thing you should know about me is, this is me. You’re not speaking to a persona. This isn’t an act. I am Miss Misery. I love your suffering. I value your sacrifice.
When your submission is heartfelt and genuine, I believe it will bring out the best in us. When you are honest about your needs and wants, I can more quickly determine if we’re a good match. Communication and transparency are your friend here. Don’t be afraid.
I have many interests, all of which you can read about more on this website through my blogs and the Domination tab, as well as through my other social media platforms. I hope you will take the time to do your research before contacting me. The more you know about me and yourself, the faster we can move forward, or, if necessary part ways. I don’t want either of our time wasted.
slaveboysmith: Financial Dominant. Emotional Sadist. Today’s Feature Domme is Miss Misery, and as her name and Twitter description might hint upon, she will ruin you in more ways than one. Please be gentle with me today, Miss as I welcome you to DommeAddiction!
Miss Misery: Perfectly gentle. My malice is earned after all 😉
sbs: Very well and I will be careful to either avoid or encourage that depending on what that means lol. Perhaps we could begin by exploring your entry into the world of Femdom. What was it that brought you here, and how have you evolved as a Femdom since you first began?
MM: I found FinDom through FetLife and fell in love. Cash is completely intoxicating for me. In the FinDom forums there, I read more and more about FemDom. I was actually really turned off to it at first because so many of the people I was seeing talk about it associated it with female supremacy, which I’m definitely not a fan of, but as some Dommes reached out to me and explained that that’s not always the case, I became more and more open to it. Eventually, I began to explore, emotionally, and with some close sub friends, the parts of me that desire to control and destroy men.
sbs: You will be opening your iWantClips store very soon. What types of clips can our readers expect to find, and do you have specific favourite fetishes you plan to bring to life in them?
MM: My poly family calls me the “fantasy factory” just to give you an idea. I have so many fetishes so you can expect a lot of variety over time, but I’ll be starting off with some ASMR, hand fetish, and boot fetish to name a few. I also have a very special Halloween clip that I’m extremely excited about.
sbs: I know I’m looking forward to checking that out and we’ll be releasing this feature interview to coincide with the opening of your IWC store. Anything else you have in the works that we should be eagerly anticipating, Miss Misery?
MM: I’ll be opening up a Many Vids clip store as well, featuring such content as a corset video, my girlfriend’s retired heels for sale, and a very special Halloween photo shoot. I’m also planning some pay to play kik rooms I’m excited about.
sbs: Do you recall when you first realized that you were dominant and could enslave men as you do? Is that an extension of your everyday personality, or is it a role you play in interacting with slaves?
MM: I indulged in emotional sadism for years before I knew what it was. I wasn’t the nicest teenager in the world. When I grew up and realized what it was and that I could do that with consenting partners, I felt years of pent up tension leave me. I’ve had some friends, men and women, in my local BDSM community that have sought that part of me for scenes, and, in time, I grew to embrace this delicious malice in myself, and the desire to subject others to misery grew, until I began to seek that fulfillment through FinDom and Ds. So, it’s very much a part of me and who I am, and this is my healthy outlet for it.
sbs: Do you only interact with slaves online, through clips and financial tribute, or do you also see them for real time sessions?
MM: I’d love to do real time sessions, and I do with some local friends in the scene, but, I currently have no dungeon or the like to meet people I don’t know well, so, until I do, I will only scene with those that serve long enough, and connect with me deeply enough to be called a friend, not just in the scene, but out of it as well.
sbs: I ask this question often in interviews and some Dommes enjoy the fantasy. If you could have one celebrity, or well known person, kneeling before you, willing to do anything to please you, who would it be, and why?
MM: Oh man. So, I tend to have crushes more on characters than celebrities, but, Karen from Mean Girls makes me desire filthy levels of abuse. It’s not even the actress, it’s that doe eyed bimbo thing that just does it for me and makes me feel so sadistic.
sbs: Is there a difference in having a male submissive serve you versus a female one? Have you had the opportunity to experience both?
MM: I have experienced both and there are definite differences and similarities. Some things are just across the board, for example, I love degradation; I don’t care who you are! But men and women typically bring out different things in me. I’m much more likely to want to turn a woman into a cum slut than a man, just like I’m far more likely to want to do genital punishment on a man than on a woman. However, chemistry trumps gender every time. It’s how I connect with you, what I see getting a rise out of you, what fills your eyes with fear, desperation, or desire, that will drive my interactions with you.
sbs: When you have a slave willing and eager, completely submissive to you, is there a “tell” that lets you know that you own them in that moment, Miss?
MM: Oh gosh. Hmm. Online, I’d say it’s when I start to receive money I didn’t specifically ask for, but, in person, it’s a certain look. The “puppy dog eyes” that say, “please don’t be disappointed in me”, that’s when I know that person is mine in that moment. It’s such a delicious look.
sbs: And what about from your side of the experience, Miss Misery? What kind of feelings does that kind of control invoke in you in that moment?
MM: Intoxication is the best way to describe it. I’ve had a lot of things buried down in me because I didn’t think they were okay. Knowing that my dark desires can become unleashed and fulfilled is unbelievably therapeutic.
sbs: It’s so nice that slaves provide you with that outlet Miss. For those who are reading this interview, dreaming of how they might one day find themselves kneeling before you, what advice would you offer them to ensure they make the best possible first impression?
MM: I want to know that someone has done their research on me before speaking with me. I want to hear what we have in common, what they feel they can offer me, both financially and personally, as well as what they’re looking for. The more someone carefully and respectfully articulates relevant information, the sooner I can determine if there’s any future where I can be the Domme or Top of the person seeking me out.
sbs: Thank you so much for the privilege of interviewing you today, Miss Misery. Any final words for your adoring slaves and those who might one day serve you?
MM: For those who might one day wish to serve me, self reflection is your friend. The more you know about what you want, out of kink, and out of life, the more I can work with you, the more I can tease, torture, and mold you into a completely different being according to my will.
sbs: If we were conducting this interview in person, with me kneeling before you, how might it end?
MM: If you were kneeling in front of me at the end of this interview, the most you’d receive from me is a pat on the head as I walked away, the sound of my boot heels disappearing entirely before you’re permitted to lift your head.
