Every day, beautiful dominant Goddesses are bombarded by correspondence from adoring admirers hoping to impress upon them their desire to submit and serve. From all of these offerings, only a few stand out as genuine, committed and worthy. What is it that separates the wheat from the chaff? What makes a good slave, one worthy of a Domme’s valuable time and attention? What are the hallmarks of a well behaved, and valued slave that all those reading this should aspire to become, if you are not already there? Deciding to approach that breathtaking Goddess of your dreams is a huge step, and one not to be taken lightly. She is way out of your league and can choose from virtually any man on the planet she wishes to engage with. So what can you do to make yourself of value to her and to ensure a deep, enriching D/s relationship? For this feature, DommeAddiction seeks to find those qualities that all worthy slaves display, and those characteristics most valued by Femdom Goddess.
With this in mind, we offer you responses from a variety of Dommes to the following questions:
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What do all well behaved slaves have in common that is pleasing as a Domme?
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What are your expectations of slaves who are permitted to serve you?
Hello, slaves! I’m Princess Mindy, a greedy Canadian Princess who has had a fun, and successful career online as a Femdom/Findom for over 10 years now. Fun is important to me, maybe not as important as making big bucks but a not so distant second for sure… I’m going to talk about good slave phone etiquette since I take a lot of Femdom phone calls, and have roughly 10,000 Female domination phone calls under My belt. *I’m a chatty Girl, what can I say?!*
It makes it so much more fun, and easy to jump into the fun of Domme/slave phone sessions when the slave gives a proper introduction of himself. When slaves introduce themselves by saying a nice hello, stating what it is about Me that makes them weak and shares their fetishes right off the bat, it makes all the difference in the world to pluck his wallet, and strings quickly. Sometimes you really connect with a slave, and have lots of fun, and for that to happen the slave needs to actually communicate his specific interests. Good slaves give Me something to go off of, and don’t just say things like “I’ll do whatever you say”. Good slaves will tribute or gift before, during or after sessions which makes things feel less like a transaction and more personal… I could expand because the behaviour extends to more than just money. A real slave will use all of his abilities to push Me forward. Leave good ratings, and feedback or even help promote. The ones who don’t care to do all that extra stuff will use their wallets and stay safely in the shadows… and they are happy to be double dipped.
Tribute, and shop while paying to talk on the phone haha ahhh yes this makes it so much fun. You don’t have to do any or all of these things but the message I want to get across is a good slave always shows his good servitude by his actions which benefit the Female… Lastly, I like slaves who even after they have a release *if I allow it* will say “Thank you for the chat, I’ll talk to you again soon” or something like that before hanging up… Yep, polite, and respectful behaviour is huge! ~ Princess Mindy
All My well-behaved slaves put My wants and needs before their own. They are truly interested in serving and being of use to Me rather than trying to serve their own horny impulses. They find sexual gratification in pleasing Me and contributing to make My life better. They are also not cheap and NEVER try to bargain or ask me to lower prices/give them special treatment. Good boys value My time and understand they must work and spend for My limited and valuable attention.
Good slaves also send “just because” gifts and tributes. Our relationship is not transactional, or about what they get in return for doing something for Me. They genuinely want to better My life. And in return for not being selfish and self-serving, I always prioritize them over the greedy and needy idiots who try to call themselves My slaves.
I’m sure it’s different for each Domme, but what something that I think well behaved slaves have in common, for me, is not to expect anything from me. Of course, good boys are rewarded, but what I genuinely am looking for are subs who will pay me, worship me, buy my clips, and otherwise please me (by tweeting promo tweets, for example) and NOT expect anything in return for this. That might sound strange, but I’m generally not a “transactional” Domme–like, I most likely will not accept a payment to Skype with you. Serving me in and of itself is pleasurable for my adherents. I have subs who’ll spend thousands on me in one evening, where we’re conversing via email or perhaps I’m sending him private videos or maybe even Skyping. Then I have subs who can’t afford much but send me gifts when they can, tribute here or there, and buy my clips reverently. These guys, as long as they’re polite and enthusiastic in service, will be allowed to converse with me via social media or email and perhaps they’ll get a hot teasing video or private picture on occasion. While it may not sound like you’re getting much in return here, ask any one of my innumerable slaves and they will all tell you just how “worth it” it is to serve me!
I have a few tips when it comes to successful servitude:
-No means no, do NOT pester or ask for something repeatedly
-Gentle reminders are great. I have 200 slave “Michaels” so remind me which one you are, what our last contact was like or what your particular kink is when talking to me. Also, if I was supposed to mail you some panties and they haven’t arrived, email me and remind me. Dommes are busy and we must run our own schedules and manage TONS of emails and points of contact on many sites so things can get forgotten!
-Don’t be afraid to reach out! I have so many subs who, after doing some Femdom play with me, say “Wow, I wish I would have contacted you years ago, I’ve just been a lurking admirer for so long…” Don’t be intimidated. I’m online because I want to dominate men, so come and get it (as long as you can pay for it)!
-Keep things concise. I don’t have all day to read a lengthy email from you. Keep it short and sweet!
All slaves set out to please their superior Domme… in whatever way that may be agreed upon by the two of them. If you really think about it, that’s all they strive to do. They want to serve and please us. So it’s important that they understand how best to do that.
I expect my slaves to: -Pay for my time. Generosity goes a long way with me. Those that tribute, buy clips, gifts, buy customs, call my phone lines or text me on Chatstar, regularly, get rewards! -Be open about fetishes and kinks so we can explore fully. I’m open to new things! -Stay in contact on a regular basis. If we don’t talk at least weekly, I may discipline you. There’s nothing worse than when a slave disappears with no contact for months and reappears expecting to be rewarded. That’s not how it works 😉 My slaves are loyal and obedient or they’re not my slaves at all.
The most important thing is consistency! A good slave will be unobtrusive but consistently observing Me. Perhaps I’ve posted that I have a reimbursement opportunity. Perhaps I’ve been having a bad day. A good slave is consistently there, in the background, to cater to the things I desire without being directly commanded to act. A good slave checks in regularly, at least every day or two, even just to send a small tribute or gift of appreciation. A good slave should be like a butler – tasked with making sure they have made everything as smooth as they can make it, remaining in the background but observant and intelligent.
For me the most important traits in my slaves are emotional intelligence, politeness, ingenuity, and humility. I want someone to communicate at a high level, who uses their emotional intelligence to discern my moods or desires from public or private interaction, to take an active role in my business by using their ingenuity to come up with new exciting ideas or aesthetics, and to always remain humble and dedicated to me. I like my slaves checking in regularly too – I would rather have a consistent sub than one who spends a lot then disappears. Disrespect like that is never tolerated!
I think the most important thing that slaves and potential aspirants to Goddesses should know is to humble yourselves & come prepared with something to offer.
Men are very used to getting their way, saying whatever they want, making demands, etc. That will not get you very far here. The most appealing submissives, clients, and slaves have taken the time to research and contact you through the appropriate venues (which can be different for everyone).
An evolved submissive perspective also understands that our interaction — especially initially — is not symmetrical. Dommes and other sex workers devote their time to their appearance, health, fitness, style, aesthetic, website, production, marketing, and social media. We sometimes have years of experience and reputation behind us. We deal with the social, technical, and financial stigma of doing adult industry work. You do not. You are unknown to us until you arrive. Bring something to offer right away or you come off as someone who doesn’t respect that work. Why would I give you something you are telling me you don’t value? Your actions speak for you long before you open your mouth!
As I mentioned about being humble, put yourself in HER position. If she acknowledged everyone vying for her time without getting anything for it, she’d be bankrupt and therefore unable to continue to BE a Domme. If you want to interact with someone who does domination at a hobbyist level, please use the appropriate venues and leave Pro Dommes alone!
That said, it is easy rise to the top with consistent service and reverence! The difference between a sub who “gets it” and everyone else is quite obvious. I like submissive boys the best, but of course, money is source agnostic. So if anything I say ever makes you mad, you can tell me about it in cash. <3
To me, all well behaved subs have the ability to discern between needing to be seen and heard. Their ability to read the energy coming from their Domme is priority.
The highest expectation I hold is consistency. Lack of consistency is unacceptable.
All good slaves demonstrate the following two important characteristics: Sincerity & Prompt Delivery.
“A good slave waits patiently for his Goddess. A good slave behaves as if he is just happy to be acknowledged. This is what I look for in a submissive.” -LordChocolat-
The answer is in the question: they are all “well behaved”. It means that they respect their Domme and other women, but also that they respect themselves. They never lie to their Owner, even in important circumstances they have 100% confidence in the relationship they nourish with love, care and devotion. They agree that the time of their favorite model must be valued by paying for their videos, and they always have something great to say after watching them to put a smile on Her face. They are not focused on their own dirty fetishes, good slaves know that Dommes are humans after all, and have their own fantasies or life projects: a TRUE devoted will always help their Queen to accomplish her dreams, no matter the sacrifices. He will also learn to appreciate the fetishes of his Domme to please Her… And a true slave NEVER feels forced, if you feel bad, or feel something’s wrong with your relationship, you’re not serving the right person. And it’s ok to make mistakes, but do it with respect and do not lie to Her.
A relationship between a slave and a Domme has to be perfect harmony. That’s why I have a lot of fans, but don’t have many “slaves”. I chose them, just as they chose Me, it’s a question of true feelings.
This, for example is important. One of my true slaves will tell Me my English mistakes, so I can be closer to my goal. He will explain politely with respect and patience where I went wrong, always finishing with a compliment to make my ambition and power grow.
