I am Mistress Tomie and I’m happy you stumbled here.
First impressions are always difficult to capture, but here we go.
The Basics. I’m a Taiwanese Pro Domme with a background in English-Philosophy and experience in the arts. My personality is quietly intense, voracious, and demanding. I do not speak loudly and will not scream nor yell for obedience – I expect attentiveness and the best out of you.
My interest in domination begin early in childhood being raised in a strict Christian household that also practiced physical discipline. This background informs my sadism and desire to be omnipresent and omnipotent in a sub’s life. My favorite play is total power exchange – either indefinitely or time constrained – which allows me to own, break down, and reconstruct a sub’s life. I have a tendency toward extremes and exploring the edges of your boundaries.
The Details. I like music from cold countries. Films I enjoy include Silence, Parasite, and Phantom Thread. I always eclipse back to Anna Kamienska’s “A Prayer That Will Be Answered.” I watch an unbelievable amount of anime. I love being pampered and spoiled. Fluent in both English and Mandarin, I can also read basic German. I’m still trying to synthesize all the different facets of my personality.
slaveboysmith: Online, she is an irresistibly beautiful Temptress who will take everything, while in person she is a devastating sadist that will test your limits. Today’s Feature Domme, the very beautiful Mistress Tomie, is versatile and dangerous. Welcome to DA, Mistress, and thank you for allowing me to kneel before you today.
Mistress Tomie: You’re very welcome slaveboy.
sbs: Let me begin by asking you to share a little of your story and how you entered into the world of Femdom. Do you recall when you first realized the power you held over others and where it might lead you?
MT: I consider myself a natural born dominant and sadist. One story I like sharing with my subs is my very first memory of being turned on, and it’s the scene from The Matrix where the metal bug was drilling itself into Neo’s belly button. I must have been eight or nine at the time.
I first realized that I had a feminine energy and power over men in high school. My first paid gig was part time at a maid cafe and it’s there I realized that men will spend a lot of money on me for me to do normal activities like play a card game with them or simply talk. That, coupled with my budding BDSM desires, led me to where I am today. Also, I’m VERY good at card games now haha.
sbs: Did you immerse yourself in real time domination first and then online, or vice versa? What significant differences do you notice between the two, and do you have a preference?
MT: I started out in-person and never expected to go online to the degree I am now until COVID hit New York. The only digital domination I did pre-COVID was digital surveillance (I was quoted in this article about it :).
The most fulfilling online relationships – D/s or not – are ones that eventually lead to in-person encounters. I’m still experimenting with how to best make my platforms bridge that gap. I find that subs who are purely online tend to be consumers – they’re there for a product and want a specific need met. Online domination brings out the service top in me, whereas in-person domination allows me to be fully myself in my dominance.
I still prefer in-person more, but I have had some notable online experiences which gives me hope for the future of this medium.
Also, I don’t show my face online and I know my pretty face is a fan favorite 😉
sbs: Those that have scene you in person are in absolute agreement, I’m sure. While the world is in flux as it is, and for those who are unable to travel, what type of online domination opportunities are available for those that are eager to obey and serve you?
MT: Right now I’m spending most of my time on SextPanther and NiteFlirt, and building out my AVN Stars. For digital domination, I do Skype sessions, digital surveillance, and custom clips.
sbs: Whether in person, or online, are there particular fetishes you enjoy more than others, and any that are off limits?
MT: I’m constantly evolving, but right now I’m loving the combination of chastity, orgasm training/denial, cuckolding, and humiliation for both in-person and online. Of course, in-person, I can’t get enough of a classic impact play sessions, sadism, and have been diving deeper into knife play. Online I lean toward Findom and worship.
In terms of off limits, I have not enjoyed FTT and also do not participate in any illegal activities. Higher risk play such as blackmail needs to be carefully negotiated.
sbs: If you could choose one celebrity, or well known person, to have on their knees, nervously hearing you approach as you circle around them searching for weakness, willing to do whatever you wish to please you, who might you choose, and why?
MT: On a carnal level, I would love to tie up Paing Takhon. On a more creative level, I can’t imagine how fun a roleplay session with Daniel Day Lewis would be!
sbs: Anything in particular as a roleplay you are excited about and would like to enjoy?
MT: Well, if we’re talking about Lewis, he has such an arsenal of skills that I would love to explore something extremely niche in nature. Maybe something like recreating historical romances but with a D/s slant. But in general, I’ll admit, a good teacher-student role play never fails to get me going haha.
Oh now that I think about it, a fun scene to role play over the phone would be from the movie Her. Imagine: An AI iPhone you’ve fallen in love with tries to do phone sex with you despite having no concept of physical sensations. Even if the scene failed miserably it’d be a great laugh haha.
sbs: The only limits are our minds…and safewords! I’m sure you’d create something amazing. When you have a slave completely under your spell, unable to resist and existing to serve you, can you describe how it feels in that moment for you?
MT: It feels like I am the fullest expression of myself.
sbs: How has the current world situation impacted you as a Domme, and what adjustments have you had to make as a result?
MT: I’ve moved online quite a bit like many other Pro Dommes. I always intended on going online at some point, but the pandemic pushed up my schedule which is not necessarily unwelcome. I’m enjoying figuring out this new landscape.
sbs: Many of the Dommes we feature produce clips for clipstores. Might this be something in your future, Mistress?
MT: Yes, I’m planning on getting on IWC in the near future.
sbs: I’m sure I’m not alone in being excited about that prospect. Do you have any clip genres in particular that you are excited to film in?
MT: I’ve always wanted to do cosplay so I’m very excited for that. And I know for sure there will be a bunch of body worship content, chastity training, bi persuasion, and workout content.
sbs: I do love cosplay and find it sometimes underrepresented in terms of clip genres, perhaps because of the elaborate costumes and such. Do you have a favorite cosplay role you would be most excited to take on when the time is right, Mistress?
MT: Fun fact: before becoming a Pro Domme I was debating between being a cosplayer or this path haha. Happy I don’t have to choose now.
Okay, top of my list is Tomie from Junji Ito’s “Tomie.” She’s the character my name is based on. I would also love to become Yumeko Jabami and do a Findom clip off of the gambling concept.
sbs: Indeed…the schoolgirl outfits are very tantalizing and irresistible! I think there would be a number of our readers who would love to see you bring that roleplay to the screen in a clip or many! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us today Mistress Tomie. Any final words for those reading this interview and dreaming of serving you?
MT: The only thing I’ll say is that all my subs have said my personality and aura cannot be fully captured online. If you really want to experience me in all my fullness, apply to session in person after you’ve handled COVID precautions. Otherwise, you can be teased from afar via the internet 😉
sbs: Whether in person or from a distance, it’s easy to imagine you driving men wild. With that in mind, may this slaveboy please ask one final question of you before crawling away and getting to work on your feature, Mistress?
MT: Yes you may.
sbs: Thank you Mistress. If we were conducting this interview in person, me kneeling before you as I asked my questions, how might such an interview conclude?
MT: Well dear, you’ve been awfully polite so I’m going to assume you’re the same in person. I would first start out by asking why your cock is so hard in your pants right now…I haven’t even done anything yet! Then I would then lead you to a private room, you trailing behind me on all fours, where…let’s have our imagination fill in those blanks 😉
