I am a professional Dominatrix located in Los Angeles. I grew up in Southern California and am an exotic mix of Asian and European. I have been dominating men on and off for the past eight years. I trained under the watchful eyes of multiple Mistresses and continue to expand My knowledge. I offer clips, phone, camming, and sub training. In person sessions are reserved for high paying submissive men. My favorite fetishes are financial domination, humiliation, chastity, human furniture, trampling, CBT, foot worship, and degradation.
I am naturally dominant and extremely controlling. I genuinely enjoy building a relationship with each of My subs. Each individual is different and has his own kinks and needs. I have high expectations for My submissives and always demand 100%. I require honesty, loyalty, sacrifice, communication, and openness. I expect money, devotion, and commitment from My subs and in return I give them My time and attention that they so desperately crave and need.
slaveboysmith: Today at DommeAddiction, I have the distinct privilege of kneeling before the beautiful and seductive Findom of your dreams, the gorgeous Lady Valencia. Welcome to DA and I have to say, I’m so glad to finally have this opportunity.
Lady Valencia: Why thank you for diving into My world. It’s always nice to see yet another man bowing before Me.
sbs: I’m quite certain there have been many before me to bend the knee, and many more will follow, particularly after reading this feature, I hope. Can you share a little with our readers about your entry into the world of female domination, and about some of your experiences along the way to becoming the world-famous Domme that you are today?
LV: I certainly can. I began experimenting with BDSM in My personal life as early as age eighteen. I would convince straight men to have oral and anal sex with other straight men while I watched in amusement. I didn’t know it was a fetish or anything about BDSM then but I knew I enjoyed having power over men. A few years later I started learning about BDSM and decided that I wanted to be a Dominatrix. I had tried out different sex work jobs but I was always supposed to be submissive toward men and despised it. I started working at a dungeon where everyone had to start out at as a submissive for at least six months. I made it for about three before I quit. Since then I’ve been learning through experienced Mistresses, reading, events, and classes. I’m a huge bookworm so I’m always hungry for more knowledge. The wonderful thing about BDSM is that there is always something new to learn. New toys. New techniques. New fetishes. I make sure to keep improving so I can become the best Dominatrix that I can be.
sbs: Well you certainly have arrived, Lady Valencia. I’m sure I’m not alone in being blown away that as an 18 year old you were able to convince straight men to perform sexually on one another! How does that conversation go exactly? lol And has forced bi continued to be one of your favourite fetishes to explore with your slaves?
LV: Well, back then Craigslist Personals was still a thing. I would meet men through that and talk them into doing all sorts of diabolical activities. Most of them thought that if they did what I said that they’d get to hook up with Me but that never happened. Foolish creatures. I still participate in “forced” bi but usually only online because of legal issues. So many ridiculous laws but that’s enough to fill another interview and more.
sbs: I’m sure, and if that’s an invitation to again kneel before you at a later date, I accept! It’s quite an experience to do something you would never do on your own under the guidance of a powerful and beautiful woman. Along with forced bi, what other fetishes do you particularly enjoy and does it differ a lot between online slave training and real time sessions?
LV: I enjoy “forced bi”, sissification, chastity, financial domination, foot worship, humiliation, degradation, submissive training, ballbusting, cbt, trampling, tease and denial, smothering, breath play, face slapping, caning, electric play, human furniture, wax play, and flogging to name a few. I’m always discovering new things and My tastes fluctuate with time. Sometimes I’m more into light play like teasing, and some days I just want to make men cry. I tend to do more “forced” bi, sissification, tease and denial, financial domination and sph online. I also do long distance keyholding and submissive training from afar. I do “forced” bi and sph online and I find more people online enjoy sissification and Findom more than the men who see Me in person. I partake in the rest of the activities I listed in person.
sbs: How could we possibly resist a woman who both loves to tease us, yet also relishes making us cry? If you could have one celebrity, or well known person, on their knees in your dungeon, completely at your mercy and willing to do whatever you desire of them, who would it be, and why?
LV: Haha. That’s the thing, you can’t! There is no chance of escape for any of you. Putin. He must be the most powerful man on earth. The amount of land, money, power, and jewelry I could take from him is unparalleled. I’d make sure to acquire an island where I can house My slaves. Oh, the fun I’d have.
sbs: Indeed, resistance is futile. Now if you enslave Putin you may have to take his good pal Donald as well lol. I’m not entirely sure how you’d take all you speak of but I suspect you can be VERY persuasive!
LV: Trump isn’t a challenge. He’s not very bright. You may not like Putin but he’s pretty damn intelligent. I like a man I can outsmart.
sbs: Well said Lady Valencia. Would you describe your style as more sensual or strict as a Domme?
LV: Definitely strict. I throw in sensuality but I expect the best and get upset when a sub doesn’t learn.
sbs: I sense from your answers that sensual is always there but if a sub gets on the wrong side of you, God help them. Do you prefer a slave with some experience or would you rather take a newbie and mold them completely yourself?
LV: Yes, that is true. I don’t expect My subs to always be perfect. They are people after all and people make mistakes. If they willingly disobey there are consequences. If they are trying to complete a task and do the best that they can then a punishment is unlikely. I am open to both experienced and novice subs. I like how well-versed subs are used to serving and typically have an idea of what is expected of them. They still need to be fine tuned but having a solid base is helpful. Newbie subs are fun because I do get to shape them into the perfect gentlemen. They tend to have creative ideas because they want to prove their worth.
sbs: Do you have only male slaves or do you also have women who bow before you and offer their submission?
LV: I only have male slaves. I’ve had a few female submissives approach Me but I haven’t been open to dominating them because I tend to be a sadist and could never hurt a woman. I’m at the point where I may consider a female submissive if they are service based.
sbs: From your Twitter handle, I will admit I fully expected financial domination to be front and center in this interview yet it’s not something you’ve really emphasized. How important is it to you?
LV: LV: Financial domination is important to Me because it proves dedication. I’m not always a brat though, I’m more of a bitch. I get off on the power exchange. Having a stranger throw money at Me is sexy and all but it is so much hotter when it comes from a dedicated submissive or one truly interested in serving Me.
sbs: Yet you are gorgeous and could easily be a demanding brat should you choose. Has it become routine that men will do almost anything to please you, both in the dungeon and out, or is there still a thrill to consuming a man’s every thought and controlling them?
LV: Oh, I am bratty occasionally but just being bratty doesn’t fulfill Me. I crave being sadistic and strict more than that. I’d rather be bitchy than bratty. No, it will never cease to excite Me. I get a power high whenever I get what I want. The two parts of BDSM that most turn Me on are being sadistic and being totally in control.
sbs: “I’d rather be bitchy than bratty”…wow…I may be falling in love with you! Can you describe that feeling a little more? What does that moment of surrender feel like from your perspective?
LV: There is something insanely erotic about the moment a man completely surrenders to Me. He drops his guard and places his ego aside. He puts his trust in Me. It’s a heavy responsibility for Me to carry but one that I cherish and take seriously.
sbs: That sounds like a very addictive moment for both Domme and sub. You’ve produced many incredible Femdom clips for your stores. For slaves reading this, eager to immerse themselves in your world, what one clip do you demand they all buy?
LV: Impossible question. It really depends on a sub’s fetishes. I have POV ones and ones with subs. I have sensual ones and ones with heavy degradation. I have chastity ones and JOI ones. Some have Me normally clothed and some have Me in only a bikini. I currently have two favorites. One is called “Twisted JOI #1”. The three part series is fabulous and disturbing. I give you JOI challenges and if you can’t complete them because they’re too twisted for you then you then you have to go into chastity. The other is much newer, called “School Bully”. I only recommend this one to people who like degradation. It’s quite the cruel and bratty clip.
sbs: It sounds like our readers should be binging on a variety of different clips to sample some of your array of styles and fetishes. For those who are aching for more, perhaps even to serve you real time, what advice do you offer to ensure their best possible first impression?
LV: Yes, I have many different sides so it is best to sample a handful of clips to see which fetishes a sub likes or is curious about. I love real time. Online and phone are fun but in person is where I shine the brightest. There is no distance to hide behind and a sub can’t get distracted. If a submissive wishes to session with Me then he should read My website thoroughly and know exactly why he wishes to serve Me. Subs that send a tribute, buy clips, and have talked on the phone with Me get priority. I always require a deposit and a copy of ID for My safety. Being kind and respectful will take a sub far.
sbs: That is essential for any submissive approaching a beautiful Goddess like you and hoping to submit. Thank you so much for the privilege of interviewing you today, Lady Valencia. Speaking of going far, I feel privileged to have been immersed in your world as I have today, and though I don’t want this interview to end, I know you are a busy woman. With your permission, may I please ask one final question of you before crawling away?
LV: Yes, you may. If it’s one last one though it better be good.
sbs: I’ll do my slave best Lady Valencia. If we were conducting this interview in person, me humbly kneeling before you as I ask my questions, how might this end?
LV: By you handing over your wallet and crawling away.
