“Everything is about sex, except sex: sex is about power.”
While I have a couple of core interests and specialties, my interests in BDSM are vast and multifaceted. Kinkiness is infectious, and I’ve developed many new fetishes along the way. I challenge myself to learn more each day and consider it a personal goal to excel and dominate (lol, pun) each new kinky skill set I take on. I enjoy exploring the new and unknown, as well as corrupting open minds with fetishes unbeknownst to themselves. Above all, I consider myself an Architect of Perversion, pushing your limits as an expression of your submission to me. Curious about my playtime predilections?
slaveboysmith: For any who follow you, it is very evident you control men with ease. Has that always been the case? Do you recall when you first realized the power you hold over men?
Daddy An Li: I think control over others is something that some people have an innate inclination towards but needs to be refined and accentuated over time. As a child, I was definitely a bit of a control freak as well as an immediate sadist. Starting at age five, I was always the role of “Mother” while playing house because in my mind, as long as I played that role, I could boss everybody around. In high school, I started calling myself “Daddy” and tried to convince everybody else to call me such. I knew I could terrorize men easily and loved doing so – kicking their balls, their shins, telling them nobody loved them and that they were going nowhere in life – but the more nuanced forms of domination came later.
I really grew into my Dominant sexuality as a ProDomme by being exposed to other Dominant women who knew what they had and how to manipulate others with it. Domination is a craft and a skill set that needs to be nurtured and developed. I’ve spent years intimately studying the art of Female Domination that led to who I am today.
sbs: Are you naturally dominant in every aspect of your life, or is Femdom more a roleplay for you when interacting with slaves?
DAL: I think all my vanilla friends can vouch for me being naturally Dominant. When I told my high school friends what I do, not a single one of them was surprised. A little taken aback, but they all thought it was a rather logical conclusion for me. I engage in lifestyle Femdom and have personal slaves and submissives outside of my professional work – service slaves largely as cleaning slaves (a personal favorite), whipping boys, partners, etc. My partner is my submissive, and we are in a FLR. Certain elements of my lifestyle are a bit more laid back and less high protocol than my professional life, but I am always still very much the one in charge.
sbs: If you could have one celebrity, or well known person, completely at your mercy, willing to do anything you demanded of them, who would it be, and why?
DAL: Hmm. Probably Jeff Bezos for the resources. 😉 Who wouldn’t want to control the richest man in the world?
sbs: Is there a specific type of slave you find is drawn to you? Can all submissive men be persuaded to slip across that line into financial domination?
DAL: Toilets, masochists (particularly in CBT), and bondage bottoms seem to be my wheelhouse. I think many slaves have a tendency towards financial domination, but most don’t like hearing the phrase associated with themselves. 😉
sbs: Do you prefer to break and enslave men who might resist, or use well-trained ones that are already broken in?
DAL: Well-trained ones. I have too many subs and too little time – why not choose the men who are the easiest for me? The men who get to serve me need to be worthy, or else they do not get the time with me at all. Rebellion is the antithesis of demonstrating value.
sbs: Do you have specific fetishes you enjoy exploring with your slaves, and does that differ between real time sessions and online training?
DAL: My personal slaves are different than my work because within a professional session, I create a scene within their parameters. Within my personal life, slaves are only allowed to enter so long as they fit my personal parameters. I do not take on slaves whose hard limits are incompatible with my interests. I espouse TPE within my lifestyle.
Service slaves who serve as my cleaning slaves can always expect caning, chastity, and high protocol. I’ve been working my cleaning slaves like this for years and have developed a flawless system for maximum enjoyment and efficiency for me.
I also very much enjoy CBT and ballbusting, and the lucky boys that I play with outside of service are never safe from a surprise ball punch. 😉
sbs: Can you describe the feeling you have when you have control of a slave, desperately doing whatever it takes to please you? Is it a rush, or just an expected outcome you’ve grown used to?
DAL: I always get a power rush from dominating a slave. Sometimes it feels giddy, other times it feels like a flow wherein all my actions fall into place. I never get tired of the feeling.
sbs: How can you tell when you’ve completely broken someone and they are unable to resist you? Is there a “tell” of some kind that lets you know you’ve taken total control?
DAL: Everybody has a different “tell” when they’re completely vulnerable and under my spell. It can be the tone of their voice to their body language to the way they’re breathing or all of the above. I personally adore it when someone’s voice changes when addressing me, sounding luxurious and fawning.
sbs: Have you ever been recognized in public? If so, how does the slave react to seeing his ultimate Goddess in person?
DAL: Yes. They usually quietly approach me on the side and say they’re a fan, or they send me a message on social media letting me know they saw me but were too shy to approach. I actively ignore people when I’m out in public, so I never really notice.
sbs: For slaves looking to impress you, what is the best way for them to show you they are sincere in their desire to serve and spoil?
DAL: There is a formula to impressing a Mistress, and it goes like this:
- Send me a gift off my wishlist and a tribute via iWantClips, Niteflirt, Clips4Sale, SextPanther, AVNStars, Onlyfans, etc. Leave a note saying who the gift and tributes are from.
- Give me a call via Niteflirt or a text via SextPanther, letting me know the gift and tribute is from you. Only use my paid modes of contact to show that you respect my time. A slave who goes through the official methods of contact (versus trying to send a DM on Twitter or Instagram) is *ALWAYS* noticed more than the freeloader.
- Join my fanclubs (OnlyFans, AVNStars) under the same username so I know who you are.
- Buy my content under the same username so I know who you are.
- Continue staying in regular contact with me. A call or text once a week, a tribute or gift once a week. Consistency is important in standing above the rest. Show that you are able to show up time and time again and that I am not just a flash in the pan.
That’s it! It’s easy. It requires time, money, and patience.
sbs: Is there anything else you would like to tell your admiring worshipers reading this interview?
DAL: Follow my links:
My website is www.youremybit.ch
Follow me on social media:
My Twitter is twitter.com/daddy_anli
My instagram is instagram.com/mistress_anli
Watch my videos:
My clips4sale is c4s.com/76961/cid8060ef8bd840a7761a24096fb3
My IWantClips is iwantanli.com
Keep in touch with me here:
For phone calls, niteflirt.com/phonesex/listing?crid=Listing%20link&listing_id=10251003&pid=26358563
For sexting, https://www.sextpanther.com/An-Li
And join my fan clubs here:
AVNStars: https://stars.avn.com/daddy_anli/?code=7b86a
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sbs: If you would oblige me one final question…if we were conducting this interview in person, how would it end?
DAL: I’d tell you to get the fuck out of my face.
