Mistress Malissia is a Slavic alpha woman based in Montreal. She is the Goddess you dream to worship, the Guidess you wish to follow, the Disciplinarian you hope to please and the Mistress you desire to serve. She believes in Gynarchy – a world ruled and led by Women. This is reflected it in Her skillful practice and Fetish FemDom films.
Mistress Malissia’s interest in BDSM is rooted in a genuine enjoyment of power exchange and in Her passion for human psychology. She will devilishly control your mind through play by exploring the intersection of temptations and taboos. Surrender to Her and enter the rabbit hole of your dark desires, as She will transform your vices into virtues.
slaveboysmith: Welcome to DommeAddiction, Mistress Malissia, and thank you for the privilege of this audience before you. For any who follow you, it is very evident you control men with ease. Has that always been the case? Do you recall when you first realized the power you hold over men?
Mistress Malissia: I believe I easily hold power over men and that it has always been the case, but I was not always conscious of it. As a kid, I would simply smile and the boys would do what I want, but that was a power I needed to learn how to use mindfully. The first time I realized I hold power over men was when I finally owned my female power, embodied my femininity and felt confident in it. I would walk down the street and feel the male gaze and instead of avoiding eye contact or being uncomfortable with it, I would stare back and hold the eye contact until the man in question would, himself, look down in discomfort. Then I knew that I hold infinite power and I was not scared to use it.
sbs: Are you naturally dominant in every aspect of your life, or is Femdom more a roleplay for you when interacting with slaves?
MM: I am definitely very dominant in every aspect of my life and before I became a Dominatrix it felt like it was a bad thing. Women are not encouraged or taught to be decisive, assertive, demanding, straightforward and ask for what they want and need. It was even something that was held against me. And when I found my FemDom community it was like finding my tribe. Everything that I am was not only encouraged and praised but it validated who I genuinely was: a badass dominant bitch.
sbs: If you could have one celebrity, or well-known person, completely at your mercy Mistress Malissia, willing to do anything you demanded of them, who would it be, and why?
MM: The first person that comes to mind would be Donald Trump. But then I think that I might have a hard time having mercy on him and my sadism could go overboard. If he was willing to do anything, I would take up the challenge to destroy his ego completely, so I can rebuild him as a new man; a slave. And he will have to endure a lot to compensate for the damage he has done. Maybe he’s not worth it, or maybe the financial support for all the emotional labour that will go into his training would be a good compensation.
sbs: Is there a specific type of slave you find is drawn to you? And do you have an ideal in mind for the “perfect Mistress Malissia slave”?
MM: Yes, to both questions. Any man who has tendencies towards submission or who has admiration towards women who hold power and speak up will be naturally drawn to a Dominant woman. But we are all different, so we will all attract different subs. The submissive folks that are most drawn to Me seem to be those that seek some deeper connection that goes beyond the fulfilling of an urge or the instant gratification of a single session. As a ProDomme I see those people too and for Me as well, there is less fulfillment which is why they remain subs for sessions and never move to the stage of being my personal slaves.
I have slaves with who I have built a D/s relationship overtime as they are dedicated to their servitude. Their strength has permitted them to go beyond their comfort zone and this nourishes their personal and spiritual lives. Because that is how I perceive submission, as an act of courage, strength and bravery. And that is what I am interested in: to bring out their best potential, find where their true power lies in, and thereby, dismantle patriarchy one man at a time.
That is also what I am seeking: a meaningful connection that will be sacred – Me as the Mistress and them, as the slave. In our respective roles we fulfill each other’s needs and this way, it is not just role play but real life. My ‘’perfect slave’’ is self-aware, determined to grow and better himself, open to change and face his dark side, heal and unlearn the conditioning of the patriarchal system, devoted, dedicated, selfless, honest, committed and authentic. I want my slaves loyal to Me, and yet, support and be of service to all Womxn. They need to believe in Gynarchy and be dedicated to that beyond their devotion to Me. For the rest, I can mold them to my whim and desire.
sbs: Do you prefer to break and enslave men who might resist, or use well-trained ones that are already broken in?
MM: Like with every belief system, I am not there to educate men about feminism and FemDom if they don’t care for this, but I am there for those who already believe in Female Superiority and will gladly guide them on this journey when they are ready. Trying to ‘’break in’’ someone who is resistant will only be draining and unfulfilling for Me. But if they have other resistances, or fears, or are newbies that don’t know where to start, I will gladly provide the needed knowledge if they are committed to the journey. For Me, it all starts with the good will, commitment and dedication, the rest is all in the training.
sbs: Do you have specific fetishes you enjoy exploring with your slaves, and does that differ between real time sessions and online training, Mistress Malissia?
MM: Yes, I have specific kinks and I integrate them with my lifestyle slaves as well as my sessions, whether they be online or in real life. Chastity, tease, torment and denial are big ones for Me. It goes beyond chastity play, it is part of a sacrifice and commitment to Me. Other kinks I enjoy are sensory deprivation, entrapment and confinement, predicament and heavy bondage, but that is hard to do online. Role play is also one of my main kinks, whether it be puppy play, ABDL or sissy training. Recently I have experienced the rush of FinDom and I think it is really growing on Me. From what I experienced, it is a fetish that matches with my strengths and interests, plus the adrenaline was beyond what I expected.
The thing is that no matter what type of play I do, underneath it is my ultimate kink for the psychological play related to coercion. The idea of ‘’forcing’’ someone to do or be something, having to take it and being helpless, is what excites Me. Convincing them that it is good for them and consensual non-consent type of plays are what gives Me adrenaline. That’s when I feel like I have the most power. Reprogramming and regressing them into being something else and the idea that it is forced upon them and they can’t escape their faith is really juicy for Me.
Regarding fetishes, I am a boot fetishist. My boots are precious to Me and I can never have enough! And when I meet subs that also share that fetish, it is delicious to witness them worship my boots and connect with Me through them.
sbs: Can you describe the feeling you have when you have control of a slave, desperately doing whatever it takes to please you? Is it a rush, or just an expected outcome you’ve grown used to?
MM: It is most definitely a rush. It goes hand in hand with my kink for power play. The more desperate they are to please Me, the more adrenaline I feel and the further I can go with them. It is at that point that play really becomes transcending for both of us, as I can sense them being in subspace and it nourishes my Domme space. And yet, I feel responsible for what I do to them; I would never take advantage of that.
sbs: How can you tell when you’ve completely broken someone, and they are unable to resist you? Is there a “tell” of some kind that lets you know you’ve taken total control?
MM: When there is an unexpected release of emotions. Whether they cry, scream or have a transcending subspace, I can sense that something magical has happened. I know I’ve broken them in when they access what they truly came for and not what they thought they wanted and/or expected. And generally that shows when the session is over and they need a lot of aftercare (which I provide) and seem to have a hard time leaving Me, not wanting to ‘’go back’’ to their reality.
sbs: Of all of your amazing recent clips, is there one that you are particularly fond of and want all who read this feature to buy immediately to show their devotion to Mistress Malissia?
MM: So, I want to use this opportunity to mention that the type of clips I do are very unique as they are psychological porn: I do Fetish FemDom Erotica. They are meant for an audience who wants to be stimulated sexually by the mind before their genitals. Meant to tease and deny. They also have a cinematic aesthetic which meets my passion for cinema. I would say they can also be quite hypnotic from what the viewers have shared with Me.
The one I would suggest is my latest one called: “Surrender or Suffer” which is a POV where I have entrapped, in a clear PVC body bag, a helpless prey who will be forced into chastity and I use breath play and electricity to make him compliant. It’s a 18min short film and I encourage everyone to listen to it with headphones on a big screen with dim or no light to have the best sensory experience. Because that’s what my films are: an experience.
sbs: For slaves looking to impress you, what is the best way for them to show you they are sincere in their desire to serve and spoil?
MM: I would say that the first step is to subscribe to my AVN. Just this already shows their support for my brand, my creative vision, my work, and ultimately for Me. Through this platform they will really get to see what I do, what I am into, and have an opportunity to connect with Me. Then they would have to binge watch my content, “like” what they prefer so I get to know what they are into, comment to share their impressions and send tips! It takes a lot of time, money, effort, intention and dedication on my part to create my films, which are meant for their viewing and therefore their entertainment.
Sending tributes is the best way to show their appreciation. It encourages Me to make more. And so far, my subs and subscribers have been so appreciative and generous through AVN that is has been financing the creation of more and better clips.
sbs: Is there anything else you would like to tell your admiring worshipers reading this interview?
MM: Women love to be worshiped. So, do not miss any opportunity to make offerings. Our favorite subs will always be the most generous ones, those that contribute directly to our lives. Being a man in this society means you have the duty to use your privilege to make your Mistress’ life better. Which means, don’t hesitate to send tributes, gifts and perform acts of service. Take initiatives, learn about all the ways you could be useful to Her. Be open to unlearn what you know. Do not make assumptions as to what She wants and needs. A self-serving sub is not a real sub. The more you give to your Mistress, the more you give to yourself. Because a fulfilled Mistress makes a fulfilled slave.
sbs: If you would oblige me one final question Mistress Malissia …if we were conducting this interview in person, how would it end?
MM: If we were in person, you would have to kiss my boots at the end of our interaction.
