Mistress Kiva - The Red Queen

I am Mistress Kiva, The Red Queen…an elegant, seductive, sensual Dominatrix with over twenty years of verifiable experience as a Professional Dominatrix.

Beauty, femininity and understanding your fetish needs and desires are the sources of My power and control over you.

slaveboysmith: Welcome to DommeAddiction, Mistress Kiva and thank you for the privilege of this interview. For any who follow you, it is very evident you control men with ease. Has that always been the case? Do you recall when you first realized the power you hold over men?

Mistress Kiva: One of the many reasons I love BDSM and remain so passionate after 20+ years is the significant effect on my personal development and empowerment as a female. Growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness with an extremely controlling and unloving mother was not conducive with a healthy sense of empowerment or self-esteem. Needless to say, I was a late bloomer… It was when I started working as a Pro-Domme at 23 that I began to understand and cultivate the qualities I attribute as the sacred feminine and “found myself”. My whole life changed and I’ve never looked back.

sbs: Are you naturally dominant in every aspect of your life, or is Femdom more a roleplay for you when interacting with slaves?

MK: I would describe it more as “energy work”. Working as a Pro Domme helps me maintain a healthy balance of ego that allows me to connect with individuals in a uniquely intimate way from a place of empowerment while empowering them simultaneously.

sbs: If you could have one celebrity, or well known person, completely at your mercy, willing to do anything you demanded of them, who would it be, and why?

MK: Definitely Maynard James Keenan. I just think he’s super hot with his hair in liberty spikes and tight rubber pants…yeah!

sbs: Is there a specific type of slave you find is drawn to you? And do you have an ideal in mind for the “perfect slave”?

MK: All I can say is that I meet the must wonderful people through my work. Let’s see…. independently wealthy, good looking, loyal and generous, submissive and service oriented, adventurous pain slut that enjoys traveling and being put on display…that would be perfect!!

sbs: Do you prefer to break and enslave men who might resist, or use well-trained ones that are already broken in?

MK: I have plenty of more than willing submissive men at my feet and have no need, or time for breaking down and training ungrateful men or unmannerly men. When you come to see me you are expected to be a polite, considerate gentleman.

sbs: In looking through your Twitter, it is obvious that using your beauty and power to completely weaken slaves is a recurring theme in many of your tweets. Would you consider yourself more of a sensual teasing Domme or are you more sadistic and cruel, and do you have any specific fetishes you enjoy exploring with your slaves?

MK: Being a Gemini…. I would say I am the perfect embodiment of sensuality while cruelly sadistic at the same time… But as I always say… I only beat with love… haha. I love rope bondage… More bondage slaves please.

sbs: Can you describe the feeling you have when you have control of a slave, desperately doing whatever it takes to please you? Is it a rush, or just an expected outcome you’ve grown used to?

MK: I find it delightfully empowering and a little bit wicked… Not in a dark or foreboding way, more joyous. When I feel a slave completely let go and give themselves over to me… It feels like I’m unearthing something or releasing all the negative shit that we carry around all the time so they can truly be in the moment and be at utter peace with themselves.

sbs: With limitations on in person sessions, have you found yourself relying at all on virtual/online Femdom, and if so, what type of opportunities to serve exist for those unable to session with you real time?

MK: I wouldn’t say that…. I am a very in person Domme. And I would say that one lesson this whole COVID ordeal should have taught us is this…. THE TIME IS NOW… Don’t hold back… If you have fantasies that you’ve always wanted to explore… DO IT NOW…a few years ago we would never have dreamed that we wouldn’t even be allowed to go out to eat at a restaurant… These are strange times.. so do it now.. do that thing you’ve always wanted to do… Whether it’s salsa dancing or taking the time to come serve a beautiful Mistress like myself… make it happen. Things could change at any moment and the opportunity might be lost…. To quote Chad Michael Murray “Our biggest regrets are not for the things we have done but for the things we haven’t done”.

sbs: For slaves looking to impress you, what is the best way for them to show you they are sincere in their desire to serve and spoil?

MK: Three things: