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Let me paint you a picture…you find yourself bound, completely helpless as you hear the click of heels approaching. A gorgeous women, deliciously wicked and sensually cruel leans over you and whispers in your ear “this will be the most agonizing and frustrating experience of your life, my little pet”. You feel her hands explore your body, her touch…electric! Before long she focuses her attention on what you crave most, and between her hands and some erotic toys, she has your cock straining for that overwhelming release in no time. Feel yourself boiling up and at that crucial moment of explosive release and orgasmic bliss, feel her cruelly take away any sensation or touch as you experience your first of many ruined orgasms at the hands of today’s wicked Tormentress, Mistress Lola Ruin. As her name would indicate, this is a woman who understands the delicious dichotomy of tease and denial. Are you ready to offer yourself up for ruin, even knowing what is to come? Will the pleasure of her touch be worth the agony of being ruined over and over? Try to say no…Mistress Lola knows you could never resist her sensuality and she just loves to see you writhing and bucking in agony as you helplessly leak out your desire sans pleasure.
slaveboysmith: What exactly constitutes a “ruined” orgasm, Mistress? Can you describe some of the ways in which ruining takes place in sessions with you?
Mistress Lola Ruin: A ruined orgasm is the process of removing all stimulation right at the point of ‘no return’. This has the effect of still producing a ‘physical’ orgasm, however without any of the associated pleasure. The cum simply trickles out, and generally feels like a more intense edging. In my own sessions, I love to use this as a form of orgasm control, and I’ll use my hands, vibrators, toys and milking machines to help. The beauty for me is in the ‘mind fuck’ aspect… to watch yourself physically cum but to only feel frustrated. A common misconception is also that a ruined orgasm needs the same ‘recovery’ time that a regular orgasm would. Not so… it’s possible to follow a ruining with more ruining or a full orgasm with barely any down time between!
sbs: Do you recall the first time you ever deliberately ruined a man’s orgasm? Can you describe what happened and how he reacted?
MLR: The first time I ruined an orgasm was actually in one of my earliest clips in 2013. It’s a specialty which chose me… browsing through the Clips4Sale categories looking for inspiration on what to film, I saw “Ruined Orgasm” and thought that sounded like great fun. I researched it, and decided to capture the first time on camera… I thought it was hysterical watching my poor slave writhe from the frustration. My genuine enjoyment must have been evident, and the clip shot straight to the top sellers. So I filmed another… then another… and here I am 6 years later still enjoying it just as much as that very first time!
sbs: How do men react when having their orgasm ruined after all the teasing and buildup that goes into getting them right to that edge?
MLR: Generally they react with INTENSE frustration. Moaning, groaning, writhing… imagine the most intense edging you’ve ever had, multiplied by 10. That is what a ruined orgasm feels like for my slaves. Not to mention the complete mind fuck that is seeing yourself cum but feeling none of the release you usually feel…
sbs: How does it feel for you, bringing a man to that edge, ever so close to that pleasure they so desperately crave, and then taking it away from them so deliciously?
MLR: Honestly, more than anything else I just find it hilarious. To be completely in control of the most physical pleasure a man can naturally experience, and it take it all away at the very last second… it’s a real kick. I wouldn’t class myself as a sadist in the traditional sense, but I love to subject my slaves to this kind of torment.
sbs: Can a woman’s orgasm be ruined also, and have you done this to a female submissive?
MLR: I have never inflicted a ruined orgasm on a female submissive (oh how much I’d love to do that!), however… I do believe ruined orgasms can be given to women as I have experienced it myself with previous lovers. I should make clear this was NOT a request, simply a mistake of ‘timing’ on behalf of my lover at the time. I chalked it up to karma for all the orgasms I’ve not let other people enjoy. It’s fair to say my fetish is in the giving of ruined orgasms and not in the receiving…!
sbs: In training a slave, what role do ruined orgasms play in making them obedient and completely in service to your needs and desires?
MLR: Almost every slave who comes through my playspace these days is subjected to a ruined orgasm, not only because they wish to please me but because they wish to experience exactly what I am famous for. Any serious slave who wants to serve me long term can expect to become quite accustomed to them. For me, BDSM is about fun first and foremost, and I find nothing more fun than ruining an orgasm…
sbs: You’ve produced some incredible ruined orgasm clips, many of which I checked out in “research” for this interview. What one do you demand all that are reading this purchase immediately to experience your cruel and wicked ways?
MLR: Well I just did my own little bit of research and can see that in my C4S store I have 157 clips in the ‘Ruined Orgasm’ category, and 377 with ‘Ruined Orgasm’ as a keyword… so there’s almost too much choice! ‘Milked, Edged and Ruined’, ‘Ruined Onto My Boots’ and ‘Ruined Milking’ are some of my most popular clips if you want to watch me actually ruin a slave, so probably a good place to start. However, I have plenty of POV instructional videos if you want to play along… I recently did a ’30 Days of Ruin’ challenge which is a collection of 4 videos meant to be watched and followed consecutively over a month. Perfect to break in slaves new to ruined orgasms!
sbs: Are there any ruining techniques out there, perhaps in use by other Dommes, that you have not yet tried, but are eager to explore?
MLR: There are lots of ways to ruin an orgasm, but I am a sole fan of the abandonment method. None of the other techniques are satisfying enough for me. I like to watch a cock twitch in the air for attention before a ruining trickles out, and I don’t want to risk giving my slave any further pleasure by stimulating them any more beyond that.
sbs: Any final words for slaves who have already experienced one, or who are aching at the thought of having you ruin their orgasm soon?
MLR: I’d ask what are they waiting for?! Apply to serve me and make that fantasy a reality. I love when boys come through my playspace with the sole purpose of experiencing both my favourite activity and specialty.
sbs: Thank you so much for this intriguing and erotic interview, Mistress Lola. If we were conducting this interview in person, you having teased me mercilessly throughout with your perfect beauty and sensuality, how might you bring this interview to an end, Mistress Lola?
MLR: I imagine giving you your own ruined orgasm would bring this interview to a lovely close… wouldn’t you agree? 🙂
