I am Professional Dominatrix Mistress Lola Ruin.
Glamorous, educated, feminine and sophisticated…
I am the epitome of the femme fatale.
I understand that for many submissives, your slavery is therapeutic. In your servitude to Me, you will feel release from the constraints of your vanilla lifestyle. As your Mistress, I am both your trainer and your guide, as W/we delve together further into the dark arts of BDSM, Kink and Fetish.
In time, I will slowly mould you into the best submissive you can be. With My encouragement, you will finally begin to realize and embrace your true self.
Although I adore to dish up pain, in many ways I am not your traditional Pro-Domme. Rather than shouting and screaming, I prefer to softly whisper promises of reward and punishment to you in My sultry feminine voice.
I want to lull you into a false sense of security, and seduce you into telling Me your secrets. You will feel compelled to confess all of your most shameful desires.
My aim is to blur the lines of your fantasies into an incandescent, intense reality. I want to push your imagination and your body to its absolute limits.
For Me, My pleasure comes from the Power Trip of this Exchange. The control I feel when I see you on your knees, begging for the privilege to serve Me. The rush I feel when I am punishing, rewarding or denying you. The satisfaction of seeing you improve.
I am both the Goddess in your wildest dreams and the Bitch of your worst nightmares.
I relish adding My own deliciously kinky twist on the well-honed fantasies of experienced devotees. However, I also take great delight in gently breaking in even the most timorous of novice slaves.
Whatever your expectation or experience level, I am the perfect Domina.
I will encourage you and nurture you, I will challenge you and push you. I will employ whatever tools and techniques I see fit in order to train you.
Any caning I dish out, any reward you receive, is all done in pursuit of a mutual goal.
You may experience pain, humiliation and degradation. You may simply be taught how to properly serve and worship a strong and superior Female. The most devoted amongst you may even one day be bestowed with My collar.
Above all else, your submission to Me will be a journey of self discovery. Within the four walls of My Dungeon, you will experience a different world. Once you are accepted as My possession, you will be home.
Whatever is it you are searching for now, once under My exacting tutelage, you will not look back…
slaveboysmith: Today at DommeAddiction, I am joined by the beautiful, elegant and sensual Mistress Lola Ruin. As you entered the room, I must admit, my heart raced and my breathing quickened. Welcome to DA, Mistress, and I’m sure I’m not the first man you’ve completely overwhelmed simply by entering a room.
Mistress Lola Ruin: Well, that’s quite the welcome, thank you!
sbs: A welcome worthy of someone of such astonishing beauty, Mistress. Let me try to remain composed as I begin by asking you to share with our readers about how you began in the world Femdom. What brought you to it, and what experiences have you had along the way that have shaped you into the world class Domme I kneel before today?
MLR: I had always been intrigued by kink and fetishes, then I started dating a guy who was super submissive. We began playing together, and for fun we would also read the websites of local Dommes and Dungeons, fantasizing about maybe going to visit one together. After about a year of playing, I decided to email one of the Dungeons whose site we regularly visited with a little introduction of myself and a photo, and asked if they would consider taking me on as a Trainee Domme, more out of curiosity than anything else. Within 3 months I had started accepting sessions there, and within 6 months after that it became my full time job.
sbs: And you’ve never looked back, except to see the drooling men admiring your perfect derriere in latex, I’m sure 😉 Is there a typical type of slave that is drawn to serve and worship you, and do you have a favourite type of slave that you particularly enjoy having in session, be it real time or online?
MLR: It’s difficult to say I have a favourite type of slave, as so much of it depends on the chemistry between us. When a submissive is super responsive, it makes Topping them a real pleasure. The easier they are for me to read, the easier it is for me to toy with them. On top of chemistry is also compatibility… submissives whose interests align with Mine, and who enjoy orgasm control and denial, ruined orgasms, edging, teasing… well, it’s hard not to love playing with them.
sbs: It definitely sounds like teasing and using your extraordinary beauty to wrap men in your seductive web is what really interests you, Mistress. If you could have one celebrity, or well known person, on their knees, on that edge and willing to do whatever you desire, who might it be, and why?
MLR: I don’t really idolize celebrities, and as My attraction is towards submission it’s difficult to name one when I don’t know whether they’re submissive or not. But, if I can pick a historical person, I’ll opt for Leopold von Sacher-Masoch… the original masochist!
sbs: I’m sure you would have had some fun with someone so willing to take more for a beautiful woman. When you have a submissive in that kind of state, eager and willing to do whatever you desire, can you describe how that feels for you in that moment of total submission, Mistress?
MLR: As a Domme, it’s the best possible feeling you can have in a session… it’s a real rush of power. It’s so much fun to be in that space with a submissive, where they trust you completely and you are in control of everything they experience. I feed off their energy, and they feed from mine. For Me, it has the potential to be a very cathartic moment for the both of U/us.
sbs: And from the submissive side of that magical moment, is there a “tell” that lets you know that all resistance has subsided and they are completely ready to submit to your will?
MLR: It differs from person to person, but usually when they’re straining against any bondage or moaning in frustration, or really begging Me for what they want… that’s usually a pretty good tell.
sbs: I’m sure it’s very easy to see the effect you have on your slaves. As it is easy to see the effect you have on men everywhere you go. You’re very obviously a beautiful woman, and I’m sure men stare and drool and go out of there way to do whatever they can to gain your attention in everyday life. Has it become routine that men will fall under your spell, or is there still a thrill in knowing that you can have any man kneel before you and submit, should you choose?
MLR: There is still very much a thrill, in fact I believe that only grows with experience. As I have grown and evolved more into the Domme I am today, so has my confidence. As I have honed My skills and My own unique style of Domination, it has also had the knock on effect of making the slaves who apply to serve Me even more compatible with Me. Hopefully the thrill of Topping will never go away, and perhaps when it does it will be time to hang up My whip…
sbs: Judging from your enthusiasm for what you do, the alluring beauty and dominance evident in everything you do, and the reaction of slaves to your presence, I don’t think you’ll be stopping anytime soon, and for that we are thankful. Can you describe the reaction of a slave, kneeling before you, nervously listening to the click of your heels as you circle them and explain what you are about to do to them and how they will serve you?
MLR: Some of them are literally shaking from nerves. I quite like that, a little anxiety can really add to the tension of a session. They soon become more relaxed, and you can see them slip into more of a sub headspace second by second… their breathing deepens, they speak more and more quietly to Me, sometimes just silently nodding to My demands. I always start My play with a little protocol and worship to ease them into this more relaxed, submissive mindset for Me.
sbs: Can you describe how that moment feels for you, seeing the power you have over them so visible in their responses to your presence?
MLR: It’s incredibly empowering and arousing to see a submissive begin to slip under My spell. I hardly ever plan My sessions in advance, I prefer to go completely with the flow, reading My submissive as I go, so that’s when the ‘Power trip’ begins to kick in for Me, and My mind starts racing with different possibilities of where the session can go.
sbs: Many of the Dommes we feature do both online and real time domination. You are most certainly a sought after real time Domme. What can you share with our readers about your clips and online submissive training, Mistress?
MLR: I have clip stores on iWantClips and Clips4sale, which I try to update with brand new content 3 to 4 times per week. I also upload all of that content to OnlyFans, alongside exclusive footage, photos and slave training and tasks for those interested in distance training! Between My real time sessions, 2 clip stores and OnlyFans slave training, My plate is more than full, so those are the best ways to serve Me!
sbs: For slaves looking to explore your world of Femdom through clips, what one clip of yours do you recommend they buy first as a gateway to many more future purchases?
MLR: I do clips in all different genres, mostly POV. My style is sensual, teasing Domination, so there’s plenty of ruined orgasm instructions, JOI and Worship! However, I recently began releasing a brand new series of clips… ‘The FemDom New World Order’. Based on the artwork of the fabulous Sardax, these futuristic clips are set in 2084, where Dominant women now rule the earth with all men as their slaves, pets and toys… It’s the first time I’ve really explored being more creative and artistic in My clips, and it’s proved wildly popular!
sbs: I won’t be around long enough to see 2084, but perhaps we could see that amazing vision of a Femdom future come to fruition sooner? It sounds like there is no shortage of ways that your admiring slaves can serve and worship you, Mistress. With that said, anything upcoming that your adoring pets should be eagerly anticipating from you in the near future?
MLR: I tour to London every six weeks or so, so it’s always worth keeping an eye on My Twitter for future tour dates. There’s also some incredible footage of Me soon to be released by The English Mansion, including a few ‘Virtual Reality’ scenes! I’d highly recommend any sub go and sign up, they’re filming with not only the hottest Dommes, but the most cutting edge technology.
sbs: They do have some astonishing Femdom content, and I’m excited about seeing some of yours Mistress. Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my questions today. It is such a pleasure to kneel in your presence. For our readers that are equally in awe of your beauty and power, what advice would you offer to ensure they make a proper introduction worthy of a Mistress like yourself?
MLR: I’m fairly active on Twitter so that’s a good way to keep in touch with Me, and if they are looking for a session, then the best and only way is to ‘Apply to Serve’ via My website.
sbs: Again, it has been such a privilege to kneel before you, Mistress Lola. For my final question, if we were conducting this interview in person, me kneeling on your dungeon floor before you, looking up obediently as I ask each question, how might the interview end?
MLR: I would give you a pat on the head, tell you you’re a good boy for doing this feature promoting me, and then dismiss you until the next time we meet, slaveboy.
