Step inside My decadent dystopia. The place you always dreamed of exists, and you have just stumbled across it. My domination style is whimsical and can range from cute to scary. Scent, music, lighting, and my carefully selected wardrobe will transport you to a new place every time.
I am worldly and well educated in the language arts, psychology, and human sexuality. A purveyor of pain, impact play is one of my specialties. Though well practiced with most weapons of love, I am most partial to the cane. Judicial punishment and bastinado are not for the faint of heart, but are quite close to mine.
I am a trained dancer, and I will likely dance at some point in session or anywhere. My favorite dungeon dance props are the whip and floggers. I also love the can-can and can kick a target as small as a human scrotum and, as high as my head, about 5 feet high, with precision. Dance is a huge part of my life and kinky play style.
Be good and read my interview in it’s entirety before politely contacting me for an appointment. I love good, obedient girls and boys, they are my favorite to play with.
slaveboysmith: She is beautiful, dominant and loves to train slaves in proper BDSM protocols. Joining me today at DommeAddiction, as I bow to my knees, is the amazing Mistress Devi, of Denver. Welcome to DA, Mistress, and thank you for granting me this audience before you.
Mistress Devi: Great same here!
sbs: Let me begin by asking you to share a little of what brought you to the world of Femdom and how you became the amazing Dominatrix you are today?
MD: I learned about BDSM and power exchange in high school, through books. First fantasy, then some books written by people in the fetish scene. As soon as I was old enough to go clubbing I went to a Fetish party, for my 18th birthday, and I was hooked. I loved the fashion, of course, but I also loved the mystery and surrealism of kink. It took me a while to actually pursue my personal journey into dominance, not until I was about 25, and I’m honestly glad I waited. It gave me a chance to explore, meet people, and find out what I like, what I’m good at, and what I need to keep a very healthy distance from. My experience has been mostly positive and I feel very fortunate to be able to say this and be in the position I am in today.
sbs: And that position is one of the most sought after Dommes we’ve had the pleasure of featuring. Can you describe how it feels to have the kind of power you hold over others? Is it something you’ve grown accustomed to or is there still a thrill each and every time you exert dominance over another person?
MD: Thank you. The feeling is very paradoxical, humbling and empowering at the same time. Over the years, men, and some women, have put a great amount of trust in me. BDSM has its risks like anything else, and I’ve been fortunate enough to be part of many extreme scenes. It is a great amount of responsibility to bear over your bottom or partner when venturing into the darker corners of extreme play. I have to stay hyper alert for things like impact play that can send someone into deep sub-space and monitor their behaviour and responses carefully to maintain their safety while facilitating their trip. That part is very important to me, because the amount of empathy I have to exercise is my personal wild ride through their experience. Because of this exchange, of power and perception, every experience is unique and brings a unique lesson. There are certainly things I find less shocking now than I did six years ago, but for the most part the meat-bags are still keeping me entertained and growing as a Mistress and as a person.
sbs: Meat bags…I like that. I can imagine you’ve seen any number of different types of slaves during your time as a Domme. Are there certain characteristics you look for in a slave that will serve you well and impress you?
MD: Since I facilitate kinky experiences for well behaved ladies and gentlemen, I have played with many wonderful slaves, submissives, and some who are neither of the aforementioned but still very good company for BDSM. When it comes to sessions and scenes, I am not too picky; a polite attitude and good hygiene will get you a first and even consecutive appointment with me. The ones who end up closer to me, as personal pets or slaves, are measured by stricter criteria. I expect selflessness, commitment and honesty, and this is not a two out of three situation either. Honesty, with ones self and their partner(s), is the key element to successful communication. You cannot have a lasting and fulfilling relationship, weather that is a platonic, romantic, kinky, or family relationship, without clear and effective communication. It just won’t work if any of the members of the party get lazy or entitled about their part in expressing their feelings and desires. Lying to one’s self is one of the most common issues I see. Being unwilling to face the fact that someone is not a good fit for you as a slave or Mistress based on their current situation, personal views and beliefs, or even some limits and interests that may be a lot less synchronized than we are willing to admit.
Commitment is also very important, and that is commitment to your mates and your own goals. A relationship cannot grow if the people upholding it are stunted by a lack of motivation or some other internal issue. Some people really struggle to communicate for personal reasons and unfortunately those people will have to overcome their hurdle before jumping into someone’s collar because things can go south very quickly as misunderstandings build and expectations spoil. There’s nothing more attractive than a person who is committed to their own goals, makes everyone around them vie to become one of those goals. Selflessness is a tough one, because selfishness is one of those sneaky qualities that can be difficult to spot under the guise of generosity or a passion for servitude. We often hide behind our desires to obtain the coveted favorite position to our people of interest, many times accidentally. As a slave or submissive, it is important to ask yourself “would my owner want this? Or do I want to do this for her/him?”. It may seem like a noble idea to go out of your way to perform a task or obtain a gift for Mistress, but if she didn’t need or want such a gift, or if the excursion made you late to your meeting with her, then it was a self serving task and not one that was decided upon with her utmost comfort or happiness in mind. It’s easy to get mixed up like this, and I remain understanding of their underlying desire to impress or go above and beyond, but it’s still a quality I look to beat out of them.
Looks are probably dead last on this list, if they even make it on there. It’s a common misconception that a pretty or sexy slave is more desirable to a Mistress. But if any of the key items I just listed are missing, a 12 pack of abs will not even redeem your place as a candidate for ownership. Someone who is honest and committed is likely not going to be some obese monster. Most quality people have some semblance of a healthy lifestyle, enough to be fit for my list of kinky favorites. You don’t have to be tall, or particularly muscular, or any specific gender or color. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and as long as you’re a good person who takes care of their health you’re probably good enough to be owned by someone, maybe even me 🙂
sbs: If they are deserving that is. If you could have one celebrity, or well known person on their knees before you in your dungeon, willing to obey and serve, who might you choose, and why?
MD: Probably Elon Musk. He’s got such an interesting mind; I would love to see what solutions he comes up with to my demands and games compared to other slaves. Will he do the same stuff? Different stuff? Does a genius grunt or yelp? I kind of hope it’s both.
sbs: I have no doubt you’d find ways to make him make all kinds of sounds during a session! Now in the world we live in currently, even if they wished to and had the means to do so, not all who wish to serve you may do so in person for a dungeon session. For those submissives, do you offer any distance/online training options?
MD: Long distance play is not my favorite, but as you say for some it’s the only option. Depending on how much time a sub has to spend serving, I offer a variety of online play opportunities ranging from tasks via text and instructions over the phone, to private and semi public live shows. My favorite online play sites are SextPanther and OnlyFans. I advise anyone who wants to get to know me a bit better or play from a distance to join me there.
sbs: And perhaps through exploration in that way it will lead them to crawl before you in your Denver dungeon some day. Whether approaching you for real time servitude, or online, what advice would you offer to any submissive who is contemplating contacting you?
MD: My advice is to be patient and do the leg work so that a meeting, whether online or in person, can be set up smoothly. All meeting instructions are explicitly outlined on my website, and I strongly recommend reading as much as time allows before reaching out because nothing makes a person look more ill prepared than asking a very basic question that is answered maybe in more than one place on my website. At the very least, if 10-15 minutes of reading is not possible, always be sure to hit the basics: when are you able to meet, preferred method of contact, what are your interests and limits, how much experience do you have, how long can you serve for or what is your budget, and if you have one, include the reference in the first point of contact. We hate nothing more than a sub who claims to be very experienced and proceeds to withhold the reference forcing us to ask for it. A reference should only be the provider’s website, if they don’t have one, I’m afraid you don’t have a reference either. That is fine! Just be upfront about everything. And there is no need to physically describe yourself unless you’re a sissy I need to have an outfit prepared for. As mentioned before, I don’t care how many abs a slave has as long as they are a kind, hard working, and respectful person.
sbs: Thank you so much for sharing your story with us today, Mistress Devi. It was such a pleasure to kneel before you. Any final words for our readers at DA?
MD: Be good and follow me wherever I go:
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sbs: If we were conducting this interview in person, me kneeling before you in your Denver dungeon as I asked my questions, how might such an interview conclude?
MD: I would order you to kiss my boots. Of course!
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