Glossary

A

Age Play – Acting as if you were either younger or perhaps older than you really are.

Anal Play – This is generally when the anus is penetrated with either toys or hands. Rimming the anus with a finger or toys stimulates the nerves which can create a more intense orgasm.  Inserting and playing with a male’s prostate gland will increase orgasm intensity.

Anal Sex – Any sexual activity involving the anus. Examples are oral rimming, Butt Plugs, Dildos, and penile penetration.

Arm / Leg Sleeves –  Play which involves binding the arms/legs of the submissive in an attempt to restrict mobility.

Asphyxiation – Commonly referred to as “breath control”. Refers to play involving control of or restriction of air and / or oxygen to the brain.

B

Ball Stretching – Play which involves a type of penile constraint attached to weights in order to provide a variety of sensations including discomfort and pain, while stretching the testicles and scrotum.

Breast / Chest Bondage – The restriction or bondage of the woman’s breast or chest area for erotic reasons using various types of fastenings such as rope.

Branding – Making a permanent or semi-permanent scar on the skin by burning it with a hot metal object, as practiced on livestock. Can also use temporary tattoos or markers. Used by Dominants to mark their property.

Boot Worship – The practice of play involving a fetish for boots/shoes.   Commonly used for Domination and humiliation practices such as licking or cleaning of the Dominant’s boots, shoes or bare feet.

Bondage –  The restriction of a person’s bodily movements for erotic reasons using fastenings of various types or textures.

Breast Whipping –   Whipping of the woman’s/submissive’ s chest area.

C

Cages – Used to confine the submissive, for play or punishment.

Caning –  Mostly made of bamboo, a very painful whip. Caning should be limited to the fleshy part of the buttocks, and nowhere else on the body.

Castration Fantasy –   This refers to the fantasy of the removal of the testicles; however, some people use it for the removal of any/all sexual organs of either sex.

Chamber-Pot Use – Scenes involving the use of the toilet for humiliation and / or control.   Generally used for medical scenes.

Chastity Belt – A device that is banning or physically preventing one (male or female) from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation.

Chauffeuring – Requiring one’s submissive to “chauffeur” them around physically in vehicles or other types of transportation.

Cock & Ball Torture – any form of restraint or orgasm control to a male’s genitals.  Can be used for play or punishment.

Cock Ring – Rubber, metal, or leather type ring used to strap around the base of the cock and balls when soft.   Increases blood flow to the genital area during self-stimulation and sex.  When released, causes minor pain during recurring blood flow.

Cock Worship – Play which involves the fantasy of worshiping the cock.   Performed mostly by the submissive to the Dominant.

Crotch Torture – Any form of torture to the male or female genital area.

Cuffs – A leather or metal bondage device used to restrict movement.   Usually locks around the limbs in order to place the submissive in a precarious position.

D

Dominant – The one in charge, or the top who oversees and controls.  A Dominant should be well versed in many areas of sexual play for safety.  The responsible One.

Double Penetration – Play involving the penetration of two or more bodily orifices with various types of devices and / or genitalia.

E

Enforced Chastity – Meaning the banning or physically preventing one from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation. A means of domination over one’s submissive. A device (lockable) panty-type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation.

Exhibitionism – Common dictionary term meaning a perversion marked by a tendency to indecent exposure; an act of such exposure; the act of practicing or behaving in such a manner as to attract attention to oneself.

Eye Contact Restrictions – Restricting one’s submissive from any eye contact with the Dominant (i.e., forcing submissive to look away / look down).

F

Fantasy Abandonment – Play which involves the fantasy of abandonment. Possibly leaving the submissive in a deserted area or public area for a short period of time to exert control and punishment.

Fellatio – Performing oral sex on a man’s penis.

Flogger – A whip device usually with many tails.   Used on buttocks or back, generally to make nerve sensations greater. Floggers can be used on the genital areas.  Can be used for play or punishment.

Flogging horse – A device used to secure one on this bench-like, padded, sawhorse. Usually made waist height, with the use of tethers attached to wall or floor to secure the submissive. A well designed horse will allow open spread usage of the submissive when mounted properly upon.

Food Play – Where the Dominant controls amount and type of food allowed to be consumed by the submissive.  This includes liquid intake as well.

Foot Worship – The practice of play involving a fetish for feet. Commonly used for domination and humiliation.

Forced Dressing – Forcing the submissive to dress however the Dominant sees fit, whether publicly or privately. Used generally for humiliation.

Force-Feeding – A technique by which the Dominant controls the submissive’s eating habits. Used to “fatten up” a submissive.

Forced Homosexuality – Scenes where the submissive is forced into having sexual relations with someone of the same sex.

Forced Masturbation – Scenes where the submissive is forced to perform masturbation in front of/for the Dominant or others as a form of erotic / sensual play or humiliation.

Forced Servitude – A form of play involving the submissive acting as a servant to the Dominant. May be played out in public or in private as a form of humiliation.

Full-Head Hoods – A flexible covering for the head and sometimes neck. These come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and textures. Worn to prevent the sense of sight for erotic purposes.

H

Hair Pulling – Pulling of one’s hair for the purpose of pain / humiliation.

Harem – To have more than one submissive in a scene or in daily life (i.e., the Dominant has a “harem” of women / men).

Homage – Term meaning to pay respects to; homage; honor. A ceremony involving the submissive “honoring” the Dominant in some way – public or private.

Humiliation – To humiliate the submissive by requiring them to perform things they normally would not do, most commonly in public.

Hypnotism – To place someone in a trance-type state, and offer suggestions into certain types of behavior.

I

Ice Play – ice used on nipples or genital areas for desensitization of senses or nerves.

Immobilization – Any form of bondage technically immobilizes someone; however, this term is usually used for extreme forms of bondage where the submissive literally cannot move a muscle.

Infantilism – When the submissive assumes the role of a child / infant and is treated as such.

M

Manacles / Irons – Metal rings joined by a chain to restrain the wrist or ankles.

Massage – Using the hands (generally) to massage areas of the body. Possibly giving a massage to “warm up” or “foreplay” before play.

Mouth Bits – A type of mouthpiece, generally used on horses and ponies, that is inserted into the mouth and is used to bite down on. Used typically during pony girl / boy play scenes.

Mummification – A specialized kind of bondage in which the whole body, including the head, if a breathing tube is used, is wrapped tightly to prevent any type of mobilization.   Common types of materials are saran wrap, gaffa tape, or cloth or latex bandages. Holes are then sometimes made to allow access to the genital area.

O

Orgasm Control – When one is forced to release or hold their body’s desires to orgasm.  Can be used in play or punishment.

P

Parachute – Round leather device which is fitted between the scrotum and the base of the
penis with chains for weights to be added. This is a form of play, or punishment.

Pony – A device used directly on genitals for punishment. The person’s body weight, plus additional weight is placed directly on the pony which distributes pain.

Pony gear – This type of gear includes hoods, bits for mouth, bridles, straps, harnesses, saddles and anal plug tails. Some use hoof shoes as well. These are used to “train” a submissive to be used for work, as a pony.

Pony Slave – A submissive being dressed or made up as to portray a “pony”. Scenes might include mouth bits, harnesses, saddles, riding crops, etc.

Punishment – Scenes where the Dominant “punishes” the submissive for “bad or unruly” behavior. Often performed in little boy / girl scenes which may involve spankings, time-outs, etc.

Pussy Whipping – Whipping the genital (vagina) area with different types of equipment (i.e., floggers, crops, slappers, etc.) for erotic pleasure.

Pussy Worship – The practice of play involving the worship of the female genitalia.   Scenes may involve the cleaning, licking, shaving, etc. In general, worship is a form of erotic play.

R

Rack – A table-like device which is fitted with pulling or stretching capabilities.   Some racks incorporate pulleys, winches or wheels for pulling one in opposing directions.

Riding Crop – A short whip-type instrument made of leather with a “loop” at the end which is intended for use on horses. May be used in scenes involving pony boy/girl type play. Riding crops are used to administer punishment, as well.

Rimming – Mouth contact with the rectal area, which includes insertion of the tongue. Note : Hygiene precautions should be observed with this type of play. This play can spread disease.

S

Saint Andrews Cross – This is a cross made in an X formation. It is generally angled and self-supporting. Some are suspended from ceilings, or mounted directly to a wall. The cross has leather restraints for arms, legs and body. Some have hooks along the edges for a person to be “laced” to the cross. Used for sexual play, or punishment can be administered while attached to the cross.

Scratching – Scratching the body with the fingernails or another instrument for mild pain.   Note: Safety precautions should be observed as deep scratching may lead to bleeding of the skin. Care should be exercised in preventing infection.

Sensory Deprivation – Play which involves “depriving” the submissive of certain sensory perceptions. May include blindfolds, bondage, gags, etc.

Shibari – The art of Intricate Japanese Rope Bondage.  Bondage patterns are intricate, and artistically pleasing.

Slave – A totally subordinate person who needs total direction in all aspects of their life.   To be owned, to serve, without question, and who questions nothing they are told.

Sleep Sack – Refers to a bag in which the body is wrapped in a sleeping bag type contraption with ropes or straps. An intense form of bondage.

Slings – Slings are made in many designs and shapes, but their use is to open access to the genitalia for play or punishment. This form of suspension causes fatigue rather quickly, so after-care should be taken as well as care during such use.

Spanking – involves striking someone with the palm of the hand or other object on the buttocks as a form of punishment / humiliation. Mild spanking can be very erotic and when done correctly can push the submissive into “subspace” releasing endorphins which in turn creates a sense of euphoria.

Speculum – A medical instrument intended for the use of medical examination of the vagina or rectum, made of steel or plastic in the shape of a duckbill. The speculum is lubricated and inserted. After insertion, the bill is spread apart to open the cervix in the vagina.

Spreader Bar – A bar type device used to spread apart arms or legs of the submissive.

Stocks – A type of bondage furniture based on the medieval form of stocks used for punishment.    Stocks usually consist of two hinged pieces of wood with semi-circular holes which when locked together form a ring large enough for the head / neck and wrists to be placed inside.

Straight Jacket – A jacket type of garment meant to be worn backwards, consisting of close-ended sleeves that are strapped crisscrossed around the back and tied or locked in place.

Strap-On – A fastening type strap most commonly used to hold a dildo in place.

Strapping – A length of material, most commonly leather, used for striking the body.

Stretchers – Generally made of wooden dowel rods or metal tubing, having eyelets to secure a submissive’s arms, legs apart for play. These are very portable, to use anywhere.

Subspace – A mental altered state in which a person can be taken to. Space is a form of hypnotism that can be self-attained, or a Dominant can aid to obtain. Subspace is used for sexual pleasure, and can be utilized to convert pain to pleasure.

Submissive – One who gives freely of themselves for the pleasures of another.  A subordinate with negotiated limits.

Suspension – An advanced form of bondage in which the whole body is “suspended” off the ground and hanging free in space.

Swapping – The swapping of one’s partner generally for sexual / erotic play.    Switching partners temporarily for play purposes.

Switch – One who “switches” between Dominant and submissive roles.

T

Table Play – A padded table, where the submissive is restrained for play. The table has many securing points to offer different positions for play or examination. Tables can be used as racks if outfitted accordingly.

Tampon Training – Tampons inserted into the rectum, used as an anal plug, for play or punishment.

Teasing – The act of teasing to enhance erotic play or pleasure.   Teasing the partner in such a way as to stimulate sexual pleasure.

TENS Unit – Term meaning Transcutaneous Electrical Neural Stimulation unit. A machine designed to apply electrical impulses to the body at safe levels.

Thigh Cuffs – A simple belt around the waist with connectors around it to restrict the submissive’s movement of arms and legs.

Thumb Cuffs – Restraining devices used for restraint by the thumbs.

Ticklers – These are 16 to 18 inch rods with a tiny flogger attached on the end. Great for small areas where precision impacts are desired.

Tickling – Tickling the body to induce laughter. Often used in age play scenes.

Trainer – A Dominant who helps submissives understand the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. Study and play sessions are the normal negotiations.

Triple Penetration – Penetration of the body in three bodily orifices. Example: Insertion of the penis, dildo, butt plug in a female submissive all at once to enhance sexual stimulation.

U

Uniform – Play which involves the submissive wearing a uniform. Such uniforms could include cheerleader uniform, maid uniform, etc.

Urethral Play – Play involving the “urethra”, the tube that runs between the bladder and the outside of the body. In men, it emerges at the end of the penis, and in women, just inside the vagina.

V

Violet Wand – A device used commonly in electrical type play which discharges radio energy when, which touched to the body produces electrical sparks. The sensation is similar to “static cling” charges.

Voyeurism – Term meaning the act of watching, peeping. In BDSM play, means to watch someone engage in sex or other forms of sensual / erotic play.

W

Water Torture – A form of torture involving water. After care is extremely important. Example: Laying the submissive face up while dripping water on the forehead for extended periods of time.

Waxing – Using warmed wax as a form of erotic sensation. Common areas of waxing are the buttocks, breast area, back, etc. The process of using hot wax in play or punishment. The wax most commonly used are candles.

Weights – Used to extend or pull, by pressure.  Vaginal weights used on labia, for example, pull the labia to stretch, for play or punishment depending on the amount of weight used.

Whipping – A device consisting of a long, flexible striking surface. Whipping the body with a whip type device as a form of punishment.

Whipping Post – Designs vary according to builder, but the principle is to have a tall post with tethers that hang down, to attach a person from their wrists. Used for positioning a submissive for ease of whipping. Some Dominants use the whipping post for punishment only, and never for play.