Everywhere you turn, there she is. This vision of erotic dominance with her shocking red hair, magnificent beauty, a body that stops traffic, and a demeanor that lets every man know she’s completely in charge. Today’s feature Goddess is the one and only Mistress Harley, and believe me, her answers will tease, shock and arouse your curiosity. You won’t be able to help yourself as you feel a growing desire to know more about this mysteriously sexy Goddess. Follow her links, learn about your new obsession, and then admit that you NEED to bow before Mistress Harley. She is truly amazing and it was a pleasure, and privilege, to interview her!
slaveboysmith: Joining me today at DommeAddiction is the very beautiful and desirable Mistress Harley. Thank you for allowing me the privilege of kneeling before you today Mistress.
Mistress Harley: I always enjoy having a boy kneeling and waiting on my pleasure
sbs: Well then, please use me as you wish today Mistress! I’m going to have to try my best to focus on my questions lol. Can you tell our readers a little about how you became a Femdom Mistress and what led you to where you are today?
MH: Yes of course. I’ve been into BDSM for most of my adult life and was especially active in San Francisco the last 10 years. I always enjoyed the power exchange and the feeling of having someone in the palm of my hand, playing them like an instrument. People started to inquire about paying me for sessions and it became a fast and profitable progression to the world of being a Pro Domme.
I had been working in High Tech at the time and had an extensive amount of computer skills and knowledge, I also started investigating the world of high tech domination with computer control, and even developing my own brand and app to control my slaves from afar. I trademarked my own term “Techdomme” and have been well known for my high tech control ever since.
There has been some coverage of my high tech exploits in Vice, the New York Post, and quite a few more.
sbs: That is most definitely an impressive resume and background in the Femdom world Mistress. I’m sure you’ve forgotten more about the industry than many have learned. Do you remember an instance when you first thought, “this is what I want to be…owner of slaves and desired by all who kneel before me”?
MH: I don’t think there was a single moment, but as I started doing professional sessions I realized that I could drop the vanilla “act” of being a project manager in the corporate game development world, and stay living in the BDSM world as a 24/7 lifestyle. And that thrilled me to my bones, knowing that I never had to go back to pretending to be like other women or have “normal” gendered relationships. That I could always interact with men entirely on my terms, and that was extremely sexy and alluring.
sbs: It’s always best to be true to what you know you are at the core, for sure. Is there a specific type of slave with certain fetishes that is typically drawn to you Mistress?
MH:Obviously I enjoy in engaging many different types of fetishes, but I think the underlying theme is usually humiliation and degradation. I take great delight in really humbling people, and I enjoy myself so much that it always pleases my slaves. They suffer and I laugh, a great combination.
sbs: I believe that answers my next question: sensual or strict in style?
MH: Quite strict. In fact, I don’t enjoy much sensuality with my slaves. I prefer they know how disgusted I am with them.
sbs: I’m sure they know and still they desperately try to do whatever it takes to please you. Is there a significant difference in training slaves in real time sessions, by comparison to online? Beyond the obvious, of course.
MH: I think my approach is always the same regardless of being in person or being at a distance, and ultimately that’s to get inside someone’s head, figure out the thing that will be the most mind-fuck manipulative experience, that will also entertain my sadistic side.
sbs: Do you permit slaves to bring their specific fetishes to your sessions, or is it always “Goddess Rules”?
MH: I always discuss fetishes and limits before a session to determine what ingredients I can really play with. I will indulge specific fetishes if only to provide the correct ups and downs for me to play with my submissive. Ultimately though once we are playing it is up to me how many of the ingredients we discussed that I use.
sbs: Of course Mistress…as it should be. You’re very obviously a stunningly beautiful woman who likely makes every man both nervous and aroused, as you are making me today. Does it ever become routine and expected that men will do almost anything to serve you, or is there still a thrill? What can you say about that feeling when you break a slave down to total submission?
MH: For me there is always a thrill when I REALLY get what I want. Sometimes that is as simple as someone buying me something really nice from my wishlist, or it’s a boy who wants a ballbusting session right when I really want to bust someone’s balls. Sometimes the stars align. There is always a wonderful satisfaction to breaking a slave down to the point where they will do whatever I say. I recently had one of my long term slaves get tattooed and castrated for me and it was an incredible rush of power knowing I had literally pushed him into getting his balls cut off. It was what he wanted deep down inside too, of course, but he needed a little convincing.
sbs: Wow! Now that is serious commitment and devotion. I may not be alone in saying I’m a little scared now!
MH: Hahaha, not surprising. I always like to remind boys that I always respect their limits (that was always important to me as a player even when I was first learning) and that my goal as a Mistress is to push slaves to do the things that they secretly desire. I’m not into truly non-consensual play.
sbs: That’s a little reassuring lol. So what you’re saying is someone with a serious foot fetish who might be willing to play with a little forced bi isn’t going to leave a session as a eunuch then?
MH: Exactly 😉
sbs: Exhales deeply…when a slave is broken to the point of absolute control surrendered, is there a “tell” that you can read that lets you know you have a blank slate to play with Mistress?
MH: In person it’s much easier to tell. There’s that glazed “fuck doll” look to their eyes that I always associate with subspace. With long distance slaves it’s usually the point where they hand over total control of their digital lives which often includes social media, banking, emails, etc.
My favorite is when guys install cameras in their house so I can watch them 24/7. That’s another great sign that they are now at the point of total submission. No hiding.
sbs: Mmm that is definitely handing over control alright. I guess that along with perhaps TeamViewer access would be the equivalent of a slave handing their balls over from a long distance perspective?
MH: Yes, it is often a close equivalent.
sbs: Both can have devastating effects on their lives for sure. I don’t know a lot about TeamViewer and electronic domination. Can you share a little about what types of things you do?
MH: Sure. Typically, a computer control session starts with basic lockdown: I take administrative control away from my slave and create an admin account from which I can install parental control software, payment enforcer programs, and key loggers to capture every keystroke my slave makes. After a few days I usually have all their passwords, logins, and a total trail of what they do on their computer.
I also look through their files, curate their porn, put pictures of myself as their desktop wallpaper, copy files that might be interesting for further control (especially if the slave has indicated they have a desire to be controlled via blackmail fetish), those can be things like resumes, tax returns, or other documents that give me a huge amount of information on the person
At that point the slave must ask/beg me for any basic permissions that I have not allowed (porn access, installing new software, etc) and they basically have to do whatever I say. Even slaves who are not into blackmail can easily be controlled simply by locking their computer so they can’t access their porn or other files that they enjoy. I can set time limits for computer use, track them via GPS, the options are literally endless
sbs: I can see that. NetNanny becomes NetGoddess, so to speak.
MH: Yes, very much so 😉 And I use similar software on phones, so with just a couple of installs I can be in total control of someone’s digital assets and life
sbs: Would it be surprising or expected if I told you that reading your previous responses was both terrifying and absolutely arousing?!
MH: Expected. I did a computer control takeover for an NPR reporter. She was a tiny Asian girl, and she thought I could just show her what it was like. I IMMEDIATELY found her porn and she started getting flustered and blushing like crazy, taking her sweater off “Is it hot in here??” I could tell how excited and embarrassed she was
sbs: NPR, Mistress?
MH: National Public Radio, she ended up selling the story to Broadly. It was too racy for the radio apparently 😉
sbs: My goodness. So men aren’t the only ones who can succumb to your dominance and irresistibility it would seem.
MH: I think that fear and arousal go hand in hand and that’s a big component to BDSM…and no one is immune 😉 If you want to read any of the press about me most of it is here.
sbs: Did you release her eventually after having some fun, or did you “persuade” her to continue serving you?
MH: It was for the purpose of an interview, so I did release her, but it was VERY amusing to me to watch her get so uncomfortable in a “professional” environment. I like fucking with people I guess 😉
sbs: I’m sure she has thought of that feeling many times. You may not have heard the last of her 😉
MH: I’m often surprised how people will reach out to me after years and tell me they never stopped thinking about serving me or watching my videos. But I guess I’m only surprised because I had already forgotten about them 😉
sbs: I think if today is any indication, you make one hell of an impression Mistress! I have no doubt many of our readers at DommeAddiction will be reaching out to you in a mixture of curiosity, arousal and fear. For those wishing to show they are worthy of your time and training, how might they best show their sincerity in their desire to serve?
MH: I always like it when slaves do their homework on me and read through my website and FAQs. I have a slave application on mistressharley.com
sbs: Thank you so much for answering my questions today Mistress Harley. This was quite the experience and I have enjoyed being in your presence immensely. With your permission, may I please ask one final question?
MH: Yes, you may
sbs: You mentioned at the start of this interview that you’re always happy to have a boy kneeling before you. If we were conducting this interview in person, with me kneeling, how might it end?
MH: Probably with you on the floor twitching and begging for release. I like saying no 🙂
sbs: And I’m guessing it wouldn’t take you long to have me with glazed eyes and in subspace then?
MH: We haven’t discussed your particular interests, but I’ve never found it hard to make men drool and submit to my will
sbs: I can’t imagine you have. Thank you again Mistress…and thank you for allowing me to keep my balls!
MH: Who says I would? 😉
